Have an “In between” Marriage

I know—at first glance, telling you to have an “in-between” marriage sounds like I’m saying, “Aim for average. Just get by.”  But the truth is the exact opposite.

I want you to aim for thriving. For deeply connected. Especially in the moments between the storms.

An “in-between” marriage understands this:
The investment you make when things are calm—when life feels steady—is what will hold you together when everything starts shaking.

In our marriage, we don’t want to just survive a storm.
We want to be ready for it—rooted, steady, unshaken.
Because the strength that carries you through the storm is built between the storms.

So let me ask you:

How strong is your marriage today?
How are you investing in each other?
Are you building connection and communication now—or only trying to fix things once they break?

Your ability to stay connected when the winds hit is determined by the foundation you’re laying right now.

You can’t be shocked by a storm if you haven’t been doing the daily work to prepare for one.

So—what are you doing every day to strengthen your marriage?
Are you drifting or building?

Will the next storm catch you off guard, or will it reveal the roots you’ve been planting all along?

Because the goal isn’t just to weather the storm.
It’s to walk out of it stronger, closer, and more united than ever before.