10-Day Reboot for Wives

Women were uniquely designed by God to bring strengths men lack. We are life-bearers, multitaskers, and organizers, offering what man alone cannot. We are not less than men—we are the missing piece that completes the picture of God’s perfect design for humanity.

Before we dive into God's Word, we must ask ourselves some hard questions.

How is my heart, and am I humble before God?

Let’s take a moment to unpack forgiveness. Forgiving your husband—or anyone who has hurt you—is more about freeing yourself than excusing them. Forgiveness doesn’t make you a doormat, nor does it eliminate the need for healthy boundaries. It doesn’t erase pain or loss, but it invites healing.

Your Heavenly Father sees your hurt, knows your struggles, and wants you to bring it all to Him. Forgiveness releases both you and the offender, allowing God to work in your heart.

God created male and female, and although we are similar, we have some significant differences. Those differences make us better; they sharpen and challenge us. Your husband is hard-wired in a way that is different from you. Our anatomy, mind, and heart are different. When we embrace how God created them, we stop fighting against trying to change them and begin to embrace and champion them.

Have you ever wished your spouse would change—like always taking out the trash, putting socks in the hamper, or listening intently when you share your feelings? The enemy wants you to believe your husband will never change, but shifting your mindset from "he won’t change" to "he is becoming" can transform your perspective and your marriage.

What is your story? Where did your paths cross? When did you realize he was the one for you? Today, take the time to write out your narrative. Why is this important? Documenting your journey helps you visualize your future direction. As you see your story unfold on paper, you will come to value and treasure it even more.

Approximately 50% of children today will witness the dissolution of their parents' marriage. Additionally, a child from a divorced household is 35% more likely to experience divorce in their own future. The state of our marriage plays a crucial role in our children's social and emotional health. They will develop either a healthy perspective on marriage or one rooted in dysfunction. While perfection is not the aim, it is essential to model grace, mercy, and forgiveness for our children.

Proverbs 31:31 NLT

“Reward her for all she has done.

Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.”

Proverbs 31:31 NLT

“Honor her for all that her hands have done,

and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

What role does friendship play in marriage? Everything!

It's simply not feasible to be a fantastic, loving partner while simultaneously being a terrible gossip and a backstabbing friend. Our character and the way we interact with others cannot be separated. The way you treat and respect your friends will reflect in your marriage as well.

So often, we desire for our husbands to lead, but we end up trying to control them, shooting their ideas down, or criticizing when we should be cheering for them.

Great job on finishing the 10-Day Reboot! Check out the bonus material to make what we learned stick.

Blessings as you continue in your calling to be a Godly wife!